“When your friend is like a big brother to you, you seek his advice, prize his respect and try to make him laugh. His happiness is your happiness. So when his happiness doubles, it is only right that, for a night, so does yours.”—http://bit.ly/m9uMVV
“nothing reinforces a promise more than the threat of shame. That promise, of course, is to put up with someone’s crap forever and ever, or until death, whichever comes first. A marriage is packing and double-checking someone else’s parachute. But a wedding? They’re loud and gaudy circuses in lace tents.”—Mind Of Man: Notes On A Wedding
The challenge, then, is to make sure that you have punishments available to you that you are willing to carry out. You may be able to rise to that challenge by building up what Joshua Gans calls “punishment capital” – not to be confused with capital punishment. Professor Gans, author of a new book called Parentonomics, points out that if you are the source of a steady stream of money or sweets, that gives you a negotiating position. Threatening to remove the carrot (or rather, the flow of chocolate coins) is more credible than threatening to wield the stick. What one parent sees as junk food, Professor Gans sees as an “incentive opportunity”.
I have written before about the research of economist Bruce Weinberg, who finds that children in richer families are much less likely to be spanked, yet more likely to have allowances withdrawn. That makes sense: poor families lack all kinds of capital, and that includes punishment capital too.
“A study by Pavlos Hatzitaskos and colleagues reports that a large portion of death-row inmates have had severe head injuries, and that approximately 70% of brain-injured patients develop aggressive tendencies.
Some of these brain injuries are accidental, but many of them were inflicted during childhood beatings.”—http://bit.ly/iIh9C8
“In any case, the focus on encouraging people to eat the right proportions of foods is wrong-headed. Firstly, it is next to impossible for anyone to keep track of the distribution of foods consumed in any given day, unless you keep a diary. Secondly, nutritionists know that the biggest contributor to obesity is the quantity of food being eaten. Thus, a much more effective way is encouraging smaller portions, or knowing when to stop eating. This method also happens to be much easier to put into practice.”—http://bit.ly/l74I9Y
“broderie anglaise, (French: “English embroidery”), form of whitework embroidery in which round or oval holes are pierced in the material (such as cotton), and the cut edges then overcast; these holes, or eyelets, are grouped in a pattern that is further delineated by simple embroidery stitches on the surrounding material. The technique originated in 16th-century Europe and was not confined to England as its name would imply. In the 19th century it was much used on nightwear and underclothing, transfers being used to rough out the design. Present-day broderie anglaise is generally done by machine.”—broderie anglaise (embroidery) — Britannica Online Encyclopedia
“But I have asked myself: if I had a different look, would I design differently? And I think I would. I think the fact that I never feel perfect and I never feel beautiful and I never feel skinny makes me search for lightness and beauty, because these are what I feel I am missing. I always go for whatever I think I don’t have.”—How I get dressed: Alber Elbaz | Life and style | The Observer
“I’d never been to a restaurant where a chef completely decides what you’re going to eat and drink. At El Bulli, choices were left to Ferran Adria, el jefe maximo, and the food was delivered in bits and combinations that didn’t look like food at all, accompanied by instructions from the waiter: “This is a childhood memory. Take in one bite.” Or: “This is trout-egg tempura. Two bites, quickly.”—He Might Be A Prophet. That, Or The Greatest Chef In The World. - Esquire
“This interactive relationship with explicit content offers the possibility of ushering in a new age of sexual enlightenment: by having the opportunity to get involved with and generate sexual material, people are learning to express themselves as sexual beings and to develop a deeper understanding of what does and doesn’t excite them. But in a culture that ridicules, vilifies and commercialises sex, this is laden with politics.”—http://bit.ly/lsmC7q
“The firm that conceived the ad, Crispin Porter & Bogusky, strives to draw attention to the cultural tensions created by brands. When they created this Hulu ad, they highlighted the idea that TV rots your brain, making fun of Hulu. Our ads highlight the often trivial nature of stuff on Groupon when juxtaposed against bigger world issues, making fun of Groupon.”—http://bit.ly/mjjsao
“Over the course of 45 years in the film business, Francis Ford Coppola has refined a singular code of ethics that govern his filmmaking. There are three rules: 1) Write and direct original screenplays, 2) make them with the most modern technology available, and 3) self-finance them.”—http://bit.ly/fatv7X
“I use Google mostly for navigation, not discovery these days. Meaning I know the document I’m trying to find and figure out the best search query to locate it. But pure discovery? It’s a shit show of layer upon layer of SEO madness vying for my click.”—http://tcrn.ch/jJjoNS
“Also — and this is something that the Quora answer completely underplays — Dropbox is quite technically sophisticated. It’s not just rsync on a minute cron, you know. It’s not that it’s so simple; it’s actually a very sophisticated execution. It’s just that those parts aren’t necessarily visible (and no, many of its competitors were not as clever).
Now, this is minimalism, in a sense. But it’s not the sort of minimalism pointed to in the Quora answer, which amounts to “Let’s offer fewer features than those other jerks and we’ll all get rich!” It’s more about doing things that are sophisticated and difficult, and not wasting time on UI afterthoughts.”—http://bit.ly/ithlYN
“companies that can find a business model around social solutions for the neediest, most costly patients, are the ones who will not only make a killing, but change the face of healthcare in the world.”—http://bit.ly/g71T93
“Think about the people who aren’t making it on [The X-Factor]. Think about how dysfunctional they feel, how failed they feel, a panel of people going: ‘Sorry, you’re going to fail.’ I find it quite crushing. I can’t watch it. I actually physically want to vomit. It’s a circus. Simon Cowell is the George Bush of the music industry.”—http://bit.ly/jvER4T
“We may not think about it consciously on a day to day basis, but objects around us are always talking to us in both explicit and implicit ways. There’s the obvious directive of a stop sign or a traffic cone, but there’s also the unspoken messaging conveyed via the ATM machine, the alarm clock, and that shiny new iPad. Objects have always been designed with the idea of communicating their use and meaning in mind, and it’s this relationship that MoMA’s Senior Curator of Architecture and Design, Paola Antonelli, seeks to explore in her upcoming exhibition.”—http://bit.ly/iITydn
“In America, far and away the most popular subjects for reality TV shows are fertility, babies and scare stories thereof, including such cheerful titles as Teen Mom 2, Raising Sextuplets and I Didn’t Know I Was Pregnant. The draw of this subset of a genre is, quite simply, the vicarious pleasure to be derived from watching other people screw up their kids more than you worry you are screwing up yours. For some parents, there is no greater source of fascination, fear and occasional delight than learning how other people raise their children, and judging them accordingly, sanctimoniously and contentedly.”—http://bit.ly/mH93wa
“breasts are sexy and thrilling – most of us want to have or to hold a perfect pair of boobs. Their preferred size and presentation are culturally significant, and the idea of what makes an ideal breast changes. Social psychologists have found that preferred size increased steadily from the flat-chested 1920s up until the early 1960s, when smaller breasts became more popular again. Research in the late 1990s found larger boobs were yet again more appealing.”—http://bit.ly/j0bAP2
“Doing anything would be an overreaction. As long as you have crowded people, bombers can blow themselves up in those crowds. It has nothing to do with airports. It has nothing to do with anything. Restaurants, movie theaters, stadiums. We could list, without even trying, 100,000 potential targets.”—http://bit.ly/jTvtdw
“I once interviewed the actor Robert Webb from Peep Show and he believed one of his character Jez’s strongest traits was Jez’s belief in “Cosmic Party Syndrome”, ie there’s always a better, cooler, hipper party going on somewhere that he can never get to. It’s an idea many of us identify with, that undercurrent of vague dissatisfaction that somewhere behind a velvet rope in a VVVIP room there are waxed people with visible collarbones and waspish waists laughing so hard they need flip-top heads. Somewhere, we think, life looks like a Vogue shoot and you’re not in the frame, fatty. One of the great things about the explosion of social networking is how the stark truth about life seeps out.”—http://bit.ly/mvN5Eq
Likert scaling is a bipolar scaling method, measuring either positive or negative response to a statement. Sometimes a four-point scale is used; this is a forced choice method since the middle option of “Neither agree nor disagree” is not available.
Likert scales may be subject to distortion from several causes. Respondents may avoid using extreme response categories (central tendency bias); agree with statements as presented (acquiescence bias); or try to portray themselves or their organization in a more favorable light (social desirability bias). Designing a scale with balanced keying (an equal number of positive and negative statements) can obviate the problem of acquiescence bias, since acquiescence on positively keyed items will balance acquiescence on negatively keyed items, but central tendency and social desirability are somewhat more problematic.
“Roaring like a tiger turns some children into pianists who debut at Carnegie Hall but only crushes others. Coddling gives some the excuse to fail and others the chance to succeed. Amy Chua and I both understand that our job as mothers is to be the type of tigress that each of our different cubs needs.”—http://bit.ly/jg9VQC
The iPad bursts into life, its backlight on, the blinking “slide to unlock” label hinting at the direction of the motion it wants you to make. That rich, vibrant screen craves attention.
The Kindle blinks – as if it’s remembering where it was – and then displays a screen that’s usually composed of text. The content of the screen changes, but the quality of it doesn’t. There’s no sudden change in brightness or contrast, no backlight. If you hadn’t witnessed the change, you might not think there was anything to pay attention to there.
“As Kate Fox points out in the brilliant watching the English, we’re a culture built on our chronic social inhibitions and handicaps. It makes us appalingly modest and suspicious and champions of moderation, it leads to particular self deprecating humour and the cynical, ironic brand of comedy that dominates much of our popular culture. We’re Eeyoreish and don’t take well to earnestness, public displays of emotion and excess. This explains the curious British love affair of home ownership - we crave a private haven away from other people, it de-mystifies our fear of public transport - we prefer to not be around people we don’t know and we’re terribly bad at small talk.”—http://bit.ly/kvw3As
“A study has revealed that shows that whilst three quarters of us like the outdoors, huge numbers have never tried simple outdoor activites such as standing on a mountain (40%), riding a horse (50%) or swimming in natural water (41%).”—http://bit.ly/l3dgAI
The 10-year rule is a simple algorithm for determining what you should do when you’re seeking out adventure. Basically, whenever you are presented with a choice, ask yourself which option you would prefer to have taken in ten years.
Sometimes this rule will cause you to spend more money than you otherwise would have. Sometimes it will cause you to spend less. It will almost universally force you to do more, socialize more, and go outside your comfort zone more.
“people appear to be getting married at an older age, and as you get into the older age groups, the percentages for people who have married at least once are in the high 90s. The former doesn’t surprise me simply because it matches with personal observation. The second part though was slightly surprising. For some reason, I always thought there were more people who went their whole lives without getting married”—http://bit.ly/mxL089
“It’s difficult to please a woman in Shanghai, Rio and Paris, and to design a jacket that will suit all three of them. It’s difficult for a brand to talk to a lot of people, to seduce all these new customers, and sometimes designers don’t have the shoulders for it. It’s good for business that you can buy Dior in Shanghai or Brazil. I would prefer to find something different from what’s in Paris, but it’s over – a dream – and you can’t go back now.”—http://on.ft.com/mvFuAu
A poll of 2,000 Brits found that men spend approximately £25 (over $40) per week on impulse buys, while women spend only £19 (over $30). Additionally, the research determined that more than £70,000 (approximately $114,300) will be frivolously spent over an adult’s lifespan, all in an effort to satisfy the insatiable urge to shop.
“IF you can keep your head when all about you Are losing theirs and blaming it on you, If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you, But make allowance for their doubting too; If you can wait and not be tired by waiting, Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies, Or being hated, don’t give way to hating, And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:”—Poems - If—
“If it’s a good kiss, there’s an associated rise in the neurotransmitter dopamine, which is associated with strong feelings of craving and desire. Kissing also stimulates the same pleasure centers in the brain that are associated with addictive drugs like cocaine, so kissing really does act on the brain and body like a drug. There’s also a rise in the hormone oxytocin, which is known as the love hormone and is important in terms of social bonding and really committing to someone, and serotonin, the neurotransmitter that is often associated with obsessive-compulsive thoughts.”—http://nyr.kr/l20s6u
“Studies suggest that stress is countered by the smells of food cooking in a home, which are received by the brain’s limbic system (the ancient part of our mind, which stimulates our parasympathetic nervous system); in other words, the smells of cooking relax us, put us at ease, though we are rarely conscious of it. Did you ever wonder why, at every party, the kitchen is the most crowded room? Why it’s a pleasure to walk into a home when a roast is in the oven or a Bolognese is simmering on the stove? Bills are easier to pay when short ribs are braising. A working kitchen is a natural stress reducer.”—http://slate.me/ioxGqG