“Couples that stay together successfully for years learn the paradox of intimacy and passion. Intimacy is “engendered by the desire to know every detail” about the other. Passion is felt when one “appreciates him or her as an individual who can never be fully known.”—Jack_Morin
WSJ: How did you get the funds to first begin the business?
Mr. Blumenthal: We started the business with less than $150,000. We were able to sustain the business for quite a while. We had traction. So we weren’t eager to run out and to raise money, because that’s expensive.
We got a $50,000 line of credit from TD Bank. That was 100% secured by our own cash. So we were borrowing our own money. But then we realized: Business is taking off. We need some more cash in order to buy more glasses.
We went to 15 different banks trying to get a term loan. We kept getting told no, no, no. Finally, we were able to get a $200,000 loan from a regional bank. It was backed by the Small Business Administration.
Thrift requires mental effort, itself a scarce resource, and the authors set out to investigate whether their preoccupation with money leaves the poor with less mental bandwidth for other tasks. They found that hard-up shoppers performed worse on standard intelligence tests when they were first asked about a hypothetical financial dilemma involving a loss of $1,500 than when confronted with a smaller loss of $150. Rich shoppers did just as well after considering either dilemma. “Our study revealed that simply raising monetary concerns for the poor erodes cognitive performance even more than being seriously sleep deprived,” they say.
“…while the most-passionate fans are drawn to obscure subjects in their sphere of interest—whether it’s unknown bands or meticulously detailed play-by-play analysis of last week’s football games—that doesn’t stop them from listening to Top 40 songs or tuning in to mainstream coverage. In fact, studies show that these connoisseurs appreciate and seek out the popular entertainment as much as the obscure fare.”—The Global Dominance of ESPN - Derek Thompson - The Atlantic
“We live in an age where we feel guilt whenever we have to cut someone off but the reality is that some relationships do need to die, some people do need to be un-followed and de-friended. We aren’t meant to be this tethered to the people in our past. The Internet mandates that we don’t burn bridges and keep everyone around like relics but those expectations are unrealistic and unhealthy. Simply put, we don’t need to know what everyone else is up to. We’re allowed to be choosy about who we surround ourselves with online and in real life, even if it might hurt people’s feelings.”—Thought Catalog (via awelltraveledwoman)
“To get Adderall you have to go to a physician and have health insurance. The people using Adderall look like the people in Congress and their kids, so it doesn’t have the same stigma as methamphetamine, which is viewed as a drug used primarily by poor white people and gay people. These are vilified groups so you get the same reaction as with black people and crack cocaine. So we have one drug, Adderall, which is purchased through a pharmacy and associated with outstanding citizens, and the other drug, methamphetamine, which is illegal and associated with a group of people society doesn’t like. Most people don’t know how similar the two drugs are, which is why I wrote a paper about it. I am trying to bring more attention to the issue.”—Everything you know about drugs is wrong - Salon.com
“Psychologist John Suller wrote a paper on this in 2004, entitled “The Online Disinhibition Effect”, where he explored six factors that could combine to change people’s behaviour online. These are dissociative anonymity (“my actions can’t be attributed to my person”); invisibility (“nobody can tell what I look like, or judge my tone”); asynchronicity (“my actions do not occur in real-time”); solipsistic Introjection (“I can’t see these people, I have to guess at who they are and their intent”); dissociative imagination (“this is not the real world, these are not real people”); and minimising authority (“there are no authority figures here, I can act freely”). The combination of any number of these leads to people behaving in ways they wouldn’t when away from the screen, often positively — being more open, or honest — but sometimes negatively, abusing their fellow internet users in ways they wouldn’t dream of offline.”—Online disinhibition and the psychology of trolling (Wired UK)
“Recent studies in the neuroscientist B.J. Casey’s lab at Cornell University suggest that adolescents aren’t reckless because they underestimate risks, but because they overestimate rewards—or, rather, find rewards more rewarding than adults do. The reward centers of the adolescent brain are much more active than those of either children or adults. Think about the incomparable intensity of first love, the never-to-be-recaptured glory of the high-school basketball championship.”—What’s Wrong With the Teenage Mind? - WSJ.com
“We have to learn that sometimes a poor performance reflects not the innate ability of the performer but the complexion of the audience; and that sometimes a poor test score is the sign not of a poor student but of a good one.”—gladwell dot com - the art of failure
“Panic, in this sense, is the opposite of choking. Choking is about thinking too much. Panic is about thinking too little. Choking is about loss of instinct. Panic is reversion to instinct. They may look the same, but they are worlds apart.”—gladwell dot com - the art of failure
“Stress wipes out short-term memory. People with lots of experience tend not to panic, because when the stress suppresses their short- term memory they still have some residue of experience to draw on”—gladwell dot com - the art of failure
oh my god i’m fucking sick of this generation’s mentality that your sadness is beautiful and somebody will fix you and all this fucking john green shit nobody will find you in a bookstore reading bukowski and want to lie with you and nobody will kiss your scars and you will not be like effie and freddie you’ve got to be your own fucking hero and surround yourself with positivity
A number of months back, I was mugged and my iPhone was stolen. I changed my passwords, dissociated it from my Apple account, and and got a new iPhone. Then, a couple of months later, I started getting another person’s pictures in my photostream. I have no idea why this is happening: the phone should be completely divorced from my account. I never updated iOS on that phone and it did not have photostream on it; my best guess is that when the phone got updated and needed to set up a photostream, it looked for the last account that it had been tied to.
The pictures are voyeuristically amazing. As far as I can tell, my stolen phone is in Yemen now, owned by a young man who takes a lot of selfies with a wad of qat tucked into his cheek. He either helps work on a qat field or just visits one from time to time. He takes a lot of pictures of his family: an older man sleeping on the couch, children in ceremonial garb playing in rubble. But most of the images are screenshots of Facebook. Sometimes these are of messages that are in a language I can’t read, but they are usually of images that his friends have posted. A lot of the pictures are of bales of money, bales of drugs, solid gold machine guns, jeeps and tanks, racist caricatures of Obama, and propagandish pictures of Saddam Hussein. On the other hand, amidst these are plenty of pictures of unicorns, flowers, and cute little kittens lying under rainbows. It’s a bizarre look into a world that is entirely unlike my own.”
earlier this month San Jose State suspended five of its new online courses, all of which were offered in conjunction with Udacity and had no classroom learning. The courses — in elementary statistics, college algebra, entry-level math, introductory programming and introductory psychology — were in theory exactly the right kind of courses for an online instructional provider to teach, as they covered basic introductory material. Outsourcing this kind of teaching could in theory be an enormous boon to the bottom line of colleges and universities, as the most effective providers could spread their online courses across the country, sparing the need for large numbers of expensive faculty members. Indeed, Udacity’s entry-level courses were offered for $150 each, far less than the $620 San Jose State charges for traditional classroom-based courses.
The problem, however, is that between 56 percent and 76 percent of students who took the final exams ultimately failed them. Udacity has acknowledged that the results of its collaboration with San Jose State have been disappointing, and the startup is committed, in classic Silicon Valley fashion, to learn from its mistakes. That online learning will experience growing pains is to be expected.
“What’s great about the Internet is that it started the tradition where the richest consumers use essentially the same things as the poorest. You can be watching TV and see the internet, and you know that the President uses the Internet, Beyoncé uses the Internet, and just think, you can use the Internet, too. The Internet is the Internet and no amount of money can get you a better Internet than the one the bum on the corner is using. All the Internets are the same and all the Internets are good. Beyoncé knows it, the President knows it, the bum knows it, and you know it.”— Andy Warhol, slightly edited (original here)
The general consensus is that it depends on why you’re taking them. “It think it’s context-dependent,” says Dr. Josie Howard, M.D., a board-certified psychiatrist with a practice in adult psychiatry and a member of the Simple Skincare Advisory Board. “It depends on how you use it. If you’re using it as a tool to document feeling good about yourself and you’re just taking mementos of living a great life, that’s fine.” What about if you’re just trying to make sure that the photos of you on the Internet are, you know, actually good ones? “It can be empowering. Some women use it as a way to control how their image is portrayed in social media, which is completely fine.”
So, when does all of this shutterbugging become a problem? When you’re so busy controlling your image that you miss the moment entirely. “Those seeking reassurance and approval through selfies consistently take themselves out of social interaction,” Dr. Howard says. “The concern lies when people who are using it to create a personae that will be approved of, i.e., how many Facebook or social media clicks, ‘likes,’ and approvals they get. Facebook and other types of social media create a feedback loop, and some people take more to feed their self-esteem, which can become more important than simply documenting the experience.”
“Your best new customers are your current customers.
Get a waiters pad.
Go to a cafe with the pad.
At the top of each page put the name of a current customer. Write down 10 - 15 ideas of additional services you can provide each customer. Even if it has nothing to do with your current biz.
Then offer those services. Be more and more indispensable. This will generate more loyalty, more money, and word of mouth will get you new customers.”—James Altucher
“China has had astonishing growth, but they have problems with housing and inflation. We had the same problems in the 19th century when we were growing rapidly. Every country that rises rapidly has problems. China can see a recession, but the US saw recessions and 13 depressions in the 19th century, and was still the greatest nation in the 20th century. They are trying to slow down, which is the right thing to do. It’s natural they slow down from these growth rates. They are preparing the economy for long term sustainable growth. The only way the China story runs into big problems is if they run out of water. China has a major water problem. They are working hard to solve it. I believe they will solve it. If you want to make a lot of money find companies that are working to fix that problem. As for their stock market, it’s getting closer to a buy. I bought a few shares on Friday. Their market is getting to the point it should be bought.”—Interview with Jim Rogers | The Big Picture
“Migrants from eastern Europe do not appear to have gained happiness via migration to western Europe. Migrants are happier than stayers – but the analysis suggests that migrants were already happier than stayers, even prior to migration. So, the happiness advantage of migrants doesn’t emerge as a consequence of migration; that advantage was already present before migration.
Migrants, however, might be able to increase their incomes quite a lot by moving to a wealthier country. Even if they do, though, they might end up in a lower ‘relative’ position in the destination country – and relative position usually matters more for happiness.
It raises the possibility that people who think life is better in wealthier countries – and who thus go to a wealthier county to try and improve their own lives – might be disappointed by what they experience there.”
“The whole of American cultural memory, the period since World War II, has taken place within the greatest expansion of opportunity in the history of human civilization. Perhaps it isn’t that our success is a product of the way we structured our society. The shape of our society may be far more conditional, a consequence of our success. Embedded in Gordon’s data is an inquiry into entitlement: How much do we owe, culturally and politically, to this singular experience of economic growth, and what will happen if it goes away?”—Was America’s Economic Prosperity Just a Historical Accident?
“Take, for example, a husband who dreams of going to heaven to be reunited with his dear departed wife. A reasonable wish, you might think, to have fulfilled in paradise. But it turns out that his wife’s idea of heaven is instead to be in the arms of her childhood sweetheart. How, then, will both husband and wife find eternal happiness? Transferring human relations to eternity does not magically solve their problems—indeed, it only exacerbates them, making them more painfully clear. We have desires that are simply incompatible—my idea of paradise, for example, might be to see you every day, yours to never see me again. You might think Grandpa is up there waiting for you, but perhaps he would rather be playing poker.”—Excerpt From: Cave, Stephen. “Immortality.”
I think it’s part of the nature of man to start with romance and build to a reality. There’s hardly a scientist or an astronaut I’ve met who wasn’t beholden to some romantic before him who led him to doing something in life.
I think it’s so important to be excited about life. In order to get the facts we have to be excited to go out and get them, and there’s only one way to do that — through romance. We need this thing which makes us sit bolt upright when we are nine or ten and say, ‘I want to go out and devour the world, I want to do these things.’